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I usually pick the more congenial, self-serving behavior, which by design means I'm putting off choosing the "other." This appears to be procrastinating, because I'm not doing something, but in reality I'm working around a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing some level of disquiet and trying side-step the whole thing.
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